I thought we dealt with this issue when the boys were wee. It seems not.
My Nathan is being caught up in a web of deceit and it's getting a bit ridiculous.
Have any of my other blog readers had their children try to get away with lots of little white lies?
Have any of my other blog readers had their children try to get away with lots of little white lies?
Any advice for the frustrated parents over here?!
4 comments:
The purpose of a lie, for a child, is to avoid the consequences. If the consequences were a small deal as opposed to the lie, there might be an incentive to tell the truth. Truthfulness should be rewarded like any other good behaviour.
If both the act and the lie are punished, there is a chance the lies just become more convincing. It is a learned behaviour and can be unlearned.
When I was a child I lied. When I confessed I got a chocolate Easter bunny. Boy were my sisters ticked since all 3 of us were stuck in our rooms until one of us confessed. I will never forget being rewarded for being honest...Terry made a good point!
We do the same thing...if our children tell the truth, they get rewarded...by not getting a major punishment, but if they lie...well, then they know that what is coming is not going to be good. The other day Yuri told the boys that liars don't go to heaven...you should've seen how big their eyes got.
I still to this day am shocked that Keri got a LARGE Easter Bunny for telling the truth. The only lesson I learned in that was 'unfairness' :)
kidding... I'm sure it was a valuable lesson cuz we still bring it up :)
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